Remember the book Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus?

How do you find the truth in another when the internet makes it so easy to meet people, yet so difficult to find the truth in people? This is a world of immediate gratification and many do not have time needed to find out who that person really is or the flexibility to do so with children, career or both.

The internet is the way of meeting new people in today’s world, whether on the dating site or the social and job networking groups. Many prefer to spend days and weeks emailing back and forth (we call that keyboard courage) while others are on a race to meet and see if there is a physical attraction. Sending your photos back and forth; we’ll just say matching the person to the photo once meeting can be extremely difficult. This goes both ways... words are empty and photos are misleading.

The first alternative to eliminating a lot of heartbreak, wasted weeks or potentially longer is total honesty; which is a great idea but we all know that’s not going to happen. The other options are to meet within groups of similar interests, your place of worship or utilize compatibility/personality assessments. You have the potential to find out walking in if your personalities compliment each other, your likes and dislikes, if your Ying compliments with their Yang. We all want someone who we are compatible with so why not do all you can up front when first meeting?

We all know this is never an easy task, but certainly not impossible!

What makes this task so difficult is everyone wears their "peacock suit" when they first meet someone, not unlike when going on a job interview. They want to be the person they think you want them to be. They want to look and act all perfect and beautiful like that peacock, they love everything you love, do everything you do, all your quirks are endearing and even watching sports all day long will be charming at that point. Not until many days, weeks, months and even for some years later do you slowly find out who they really are. Slowly the peacock’s feathers turn to more of an ugly shade of crow and now you’re starting all over yet again.

There is no better time to be aware of the Mars/Venus analogy then when you are looking for Mr. or Ms. Right, even if it’s only Mr. or Ms. Right Now. Finding someone who you are compatible with can be difficult. There is no getting around the fact the men and women hear things & communicate very differently. The reality is, if you want a strong relationship of any type, compatibility is the issue.